Now let's turn to our Bibles and continue in our study in the Ten Commandments. And we're going to be in Exodus chapter 20 verse 14. And we're going to be looking at the sacredness of a biblical marriage with the commandment, thou shalt not commit adultery. Now, the commandment of thou shalt not commit adultery is a categorical command. Now, each of the Ten Commandments are stated, but then they have categories underneath them of all the things that it implies. And so when you're dealing with... thou shalt not commit adultery you're dealing with all the marriage laws under Israel you're dealing with all the sexual laws under Israel and you're dealing with all the societal laws under Israel so it's a big deal and so I'm gonna have to break up the sermon in two parts because it is a major thing that we have to talk about not only from societal level but we have to talk about it from a personal level as well and so On a societal level, let's think about this. The institution of marriage is ordained by God to be between a man and a woman, and the sexual expression is to be within that institution. And therefore, kids are supposed to come from that. That is what the model looks like. So everybody here knows that. But here's what's going on. Our society has redefined marriage. Okay? And this is the problem we're having. And now you and I are sitting here scratching our heads saying, I can't believe it's went this far. I mean, can you believe what we have seen? Can you, can you understand like how fast we went off the cliff? I mean, you think back in 2008, when the state of California voted against gay marriage and the vote won, but then a judge overruled it. Remember that? And the argument to you and I from the LGBT community or whatever is saying, look, what do you care what we do behind closed doors? You know, this is, we just want rights. Well, they already had rights to begin with, so I don't know what rights they're referring to. They already had rights. And they said, look, you know, this is not gonna spill out in the street. This is just between us, you know, behind closed doors. Here's what you have to understand. We knew this back then. Sin cannot be corralled. Sin is likened to leaven in the Bible. In fact, when you put yeast into a loaf, what does it do? It permeates throughout the entire loaf. And that's what sin is related to, so that we understand that when you allow sin, it won't stay behind closed doors. It will permeate throughout all of society. It's like a cancer. And yes, here we are. Here we are now, in 2021, years removed from 2008, and what are we seeing? We saw Pandora's box get opened. This was more about... this wasn't about just civil unions. We are now watching drag queen story hours. We were watching drag queen cartoons to kids. We are now saying in our society that, okay, a kid can determine what he wants to be, and then we'll give him hormone blockers or whatever, and then we'll mutilate their genitalia to fit whatever they feel like becoming. And you have to acknowledge it and accept it and approve of it. Because if you don't, you're a hater, you're a bigot, you're a homophobe, whatever. Look how far we have come. So think about this, did you ever think when you were growing up you would see the day where two men would get married or two women would get married? I never thought that. Did you ever think you would see transgenderism on full display in our society and them telling us we have to accept that? And them committing atrocities to kids? I never thought I'd see that. Do you ever think our schools, Our churches, our society, yes, our churches would even be pushing this agenda? I never thought. It's kind of like what they're doing now. They're destroying our society, and they're doing it through the sexual revolution, basically. And it's like Humpty Dumpty, man. And so the West is Humpty Dumpty, and they're wrapping the West in this whole sexual immorality. And before you know it, Humpty Dumpty is going to fall, if he hasn't fallen already. And you know the story of Humpty Dumpty. All the king's horses and all the king's men couldn't put Humpty back together again. When you go in this direction, you will destroy your own society. That's the idea of the institution of marriage. It preserves a society. And now it's being jettisoned, and you're going to see the destruction of the West. And what's coming to replace it is simply Babylonianism. But I want you to think about this. Did you ever think that they would teach as early as kindergarten to the little kids in kindergarten that I have two moms or I have two dads. Did you think that in first grade they would teach self-stimulation with cartoons to first graders? Who thinks like that? That's evil. Did you think that now teachers are saying that the kids should watch softcore porn to learn about sex? Did you ever imagine that they would be saying that junior hires need to be taught porn literacy as a class? What's happening? It's the destruction of the Judeo-Christian society. And so with that being said, there's a couple of things I want to mention to understand, as a society, what this commandment does, okay? So the first thing I wanna point out is this. Sam, get that one, the first one up there. So the first basic idea is marriage is sacred because God created it and defined it. Now, you understand that, but our society doesn't. but it has implications. If God created something, He has the right to say what it is and what it constitutes, and therefore, any person, any human being that would dare tamper with it is an affront to God. Any human being that says a biological male that has DNA of male and says it's a female is an affront to God. That is like shaking your fist to God. When someone wants to redefine marriage to fit whatever, whatever in their head it is, they are now challenging God on the situation. And I'm telling you what, it puts them in a very compromised position spiritually. because God gets to define it. We don't. Now this brings us to our obligation, society. Our obligation then is to support biblical marriage, okay? But it's also to speak for it as well. So it's one thing to say, yes, I'm supportive of biblical marriage, but then you have to go one step further and speak it. What do you mean? You have to be vocal about this. You have to say, hey, two guys married, that's wrong. Two girls married, that's wrong. It's not gonna happen in my family. It's not gonna happen in my immediate family. I'm going to say something about it. Because guess what? They have no problem telling you what they think. Jesus said this. If you're ashamed of me and my words, I will be ashamed of you before my Father. Ashamed of me and my word. These are the words of Jesus. Thou shalt not commit adultery. Here's the definition of marriage. The two shall become one. It's a man and a woman. We have to be vocal. The reason, one of the main reasons we lost this cultural war on this is because the church committed the sin of silence. They wouldn't speak up. If you don't speak up, that is like giving tacit approval. Now, I know it's going to twist a lot of people off. I get it. Truth hurts. But truth has to be stated. Well, Brandon, you're going to say, it doesn't change them. It doesn't matter. You're a watchman on the wall. It doesn't matter if it changes their mind. You have to speak the truth in love. Why? Because you have to remove the responsibility off of you and put it onto them. How so? When you don't say something, then the blood of that sin is on you now, as a watcher on the wall. You're responsible because you didn't warn them, you didn't speak the truth. When you tell something to somebody, you're putting the onus on them, you're making it now, you're responsible. I'm done with my responsibility, now you're responsible to do with what you need to do. And so the idea is, well, what's the point of saying something? That's not the reason. We hope it changes them. We hope the truth changes them. But if it doesn't, it doesn't matter. You're getting the responsibility off of you and onto them. Otherwise, God will hold us accountable for not saying something. It's a big deal. That's Ezekiel 33, the watcher on the wall. Second thing you have to know as a society is this. Those who are married have certain rights afforded to them, including sexual rights. Now this is an important factor. Our society has convinced people that sex is a human need. That's entirely wrong. Sex is not a human need like eating or drinking or sleeping. Sex is a right. And only under God's instruction is that right afforded to anyone if they are married. It's a right, but it can only happen within the bounds of marriage. Therefore, any human being that is not in this covenant that God established does not have the right to have sex. See, understand from what the world's trying to do. They're saying you have a right to have sex because it's a need, it's a human need. And so that's why they're for teaching pornography to kids or encouraging teenagers to be immoral by simply handing them out contraceptives in colleges and at high schools. If you're single, they push it. If you're post-married, they push it. Because they are saying it's a need. Look, God's saying, look, it's not a need. It is not a need, it's a right. Because if we went with the logic of the culture, we would have to say, wow, these teenagers, these singles, these post-marrieds, we've got to figure out a way to meet that need, because that's a human need, like food and water and sleep. So how are we going to figure out how to meet their needs? It's a sexual need. And the logic doesn't work, right? It's not a need. It's a right. Hence. If that is how the society is to function, it curtails sexual immorality from happening if that command is obeyed. But the problem is our society doesn't see it that way. It's a human need. I need to have sex, is their idea. No, if you're not in marriage, you don't have that right. That's what God is saying. You don't have that right. So this eliminates and forbids pretty much everything that Leviticus will hand down to Israel. It forbids premarital sex. It forbids postmarital sex. Rape, molestation, adultery, incest, polygamy, pedophilia, polyamorous, sodomy, homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, and it also includes lust as forbidden. So... In Jesus' day, they had basically made this commandment just simply outwardly. And they thought they were getting in the way. Well, I haven't committed adultery, I haven't done all this. And they thought outwardly they hadn't done it. It's true they hadn't done it, but inwardly they had. And so Jesus nails them on it and says, look, the commands are both outwardly and inwardly. Therefore, lust after somebody is to covet them, is to want them, is to desire them. And covetousness and lust leads to eventually taking them. So the commandment, the commandment forbids lust in the fact that legally you do not have the right to lust after another person. That's endemic to the command. So that's why, it's not only wrong to lust, it's legally not right. Because that person's not yours. That's why the command is in the negative. Thou shall not commit adultery. Committing adultery involves stealing. It starts off with coveting, and then it moves to stealing. You actually steal the mate of another person. And hence, Lusting wants to covet and steal that other person, even though they might not go that far. They want to take that which is not theirs. Hence, they don't have the right to lust. They don't have the right. So I'm framing this in legal terms because this is how Israel society should function in legal terms. It's a big deal. This is revolutionary for Israel. This is revolutionary for any culture of the ancient past because I want to show you something. If you want to see how the ancient cultures were, look at the Taliban, look at ISIS, look at all Al-Qaeda, all these terrorist groups. Dude, they're from like the past. When you look at the Taliban, it's not just how they're dressed from the past, it's their mindset is from the dark ages. That doesn't have a command like this. So what do they do? They steal women. They're doing it right now in front of us. They steal little girls and they steal people's wives. And so in their culture, they don't have this command to hold them back. It's allowed and they can do anything they want. And women are just simply property and things of that nature. It was God who said, no, stop. No, no, no, no, no. You can't do that to women. So you see how revolutionary this was and how it set in motion the protection of women? Yeah, it did. The third aspect I want to point out is this. The command protects against a person's marriage or slash spouse from being stolen by them, by another person or by their own spouse. So that's what I'm speaking about. It prevents the stealing of a spouse. But I will say this, that's why I put it up there. One spouse in the marriage can steal themselves away from their other spouse. They can actually remove themselves from the covenant, steal themselves away. And here's the deal, you don't have that right. Unless you have biblical grounds of abandonment or marital infidelity, you don't have those grounds. You can't take yourself away from a marriage. That's called stealing yourself, and it's a violation of the commandment. And so this idea in California or whatever, or in any of the states, these no-fault divorces, is people actually stealing themselves from their spouse. Because guess what? The idea of marriage in the Bible is a covenant. And what do you mean by that? Well, in a covenant, the person agrees to get into a covenant, and there's usually the shedding of blood. And yes, there is the shedding of blood in a proper marriage. How so? Because the two are supposed to be virgin, and when they go into that relationship, and they finally consummate the marriage, once they're married, there will be the shedding of blood in the woman. That's why that's there to indicate a covenant has been made. The covenant has been cut. And then the woman will bleed. Because it's a covenant, legally, it means that the person must do the best for the other person in agape love, even regardless of how the person behaves. The person can be a loser, can turn out to be relationally deficient. But because it's in the covenant, the person has to continue to treat them well and love them regardless of their behavior. Okay? Except for, obviously, the two issues of marital unfaithfulness and abandonment. Now what's happening in our culture, and a lot of Christians practice this, is they don't understand that marriage is a covenant, they understand it as a contract. And that sets up the game totally different. In a contract, it's this. I will do good to you if you do good to me. The minute you don't do good to me, I'll treat you bad. And vice versa. And the issue goes back and forth, back and forth, until we get what's called irreconcilable differences in our courts. But that's a contractual situation. A lot of people have a contractual situation. That's why the divorce rate is between 40 and 50 percent, because the person is in a contract. and eventually the situation deteriorates so bad that they're doing back and forth, back and forth, back and forth contractually, and you can't live like that. Why does God make covenants with us? Because He already knows we're going to fail Him. He will keep His side of the covenant regardless of how we behave. That's what the New Covenant's about. that he keeps his end no matter how we behave. That's pretty good, because if it was in contract, we'd all be lost. We'd be lost. He would make the contract with us and say, okay, obey me, and boom, day one, we're already done. But see, it's different. But see, this is what Israel understands, and this is what set the tone for their society. This is why Israel has lasted as long as it has. They don't do what our culture does. Even today, they don't do this. Let me add something else. I mean, they don't do this either, but if you were caught outside of marriage having sex, you were gonna be stoned to death, okay? Did that tell you how serious God was? You committed adultery, you would die. You had the death penalty put on you. So how much of adultery do you think happened? in Israel. Not very much. Not very much. So now let's move from societal understandings and let's move down to the personal. And this is where I want to spend more time. I'm going to take two parts to this. So on the personal level, this has serious implications for all of us. And it has such serious implications as no one is above it. See, a lot of people think they're above, thou shalt not commit adultery. Oh, I can never do that. No, no, you're not above it. You're not above it. That's the message. And so the example I'm going to use as we go through understanding this is King David. King David is a godly man. He's a man after God's own heart. Slayed Goliath. He did all kinds of things for the Lord. And so you can't get a better example of someone who loves God than David, but yet he succumbed to adultery. How did a guy like this go there? So David's not a pervert. He's not a sex addict. He's not even on that level, man. How did a great man like that succumb to this? It's because it's a human frailty. It hits us all. We're all susceptible. This is why Paul told the Corinth church a warning about this particular thing. 1 Corinthians 10, 12 says, let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. If you have the mindset, well, this has never happened to me, then that's the wrong mindset. The mindset should be, I need to guard myself because this is very possible for me to do. Because no one's above David, I can tell you that. And if he can succumb to it, so can we. So you have to have the right mindset when you're dealing with this command. I have to be willing to say humbly, oh my goodness, this could happen to me. I could commit sexual immorality. I could commit adultery. It's very, very possible. And so let's start with the right mindset. Now let's go into the text. I want to show you the text of where David fell. And what I want to do is point out the problems and the setup for this. Because everything he goes through, it's what can happen to us. So let's go to 2 Samuel chapter 11. It says this. It happened in the spring of the year, at the time when kings go out to battle, that David sent Joab and his servants with him in all of Israel. And they destroyed the people of Amnon and besieged Rabbah. But look at the last phrase. But David remained at Jerusalem. There it is. There's the beginning of it. And you think, what is that about? Well, this is the beginning of the story of David and Bathsheba. What's happening here? David's about 50 years old, okay? He's at the middle of his life. He's defeated Goliath. He's killed 10,000 Philistines. I mean, he's a legit king, man. Can't get better than David. But for some reason, David sets the battle out. For some reason. We'll go into that maybe next week. But here's what the deal is. David should be with his army. He should be leading them in the battle. So this is the first time in scripture that David's not in a battle. He's usually there, but he decides to skip out on this one and stay at Jerusalem. Now Jerusalem would be emptied of all fighting men. So he's the only fighting man there that's in Jerusalem by himself, okay? So everyone else is on the battlefield fighting the battle. Here's the principle. He is not where he should be. He is not where he should be. He's in a place that's going to make him vulnerable. And here's the principle. Because he's in a place where he shouldn't be, he has no structure. He has no structure. Because structure in our lives tells us where we need to be. That we don't have all this unaccountable time. That we're just not floating See, the thing about accountable time is you can have time of leisure, time of rest, time of vacation. That's fine. That's not what we're talking about. We're talking about unaccountable time. No one knows what you're doing. No one knows where you're at, and you're doing your own business. That's unaccountable time. That means you have no structure. I was talking to a guy 20 years ago about this. He had a drinking problem, and it was getting really bad. He was getting ready to lose his family, getting ready to lose his wife. And what happened was, I talked to him, and he says, look, I can't stop the drinking. And I said, what's your week look like? Because anytime someone's addicted to something, you want to know their structure. What's your week look like? Well, he worked for an oil company here in town. And he was pretty high up in there. Had a lot of free time. Worked on his own, because he was so good at what he did. Very smart, very intelligent. So basically, he would finish his work by Wednesday. So Monday through Wednesday, he was working, stayed at it, no problem. He had structure. But then he could finish everything by Wednesday. So in Thursday and Friday, he could do anything he wanted to do. He didn't even have to go in. So he lost structure on Thursday and Friday. No structure, nowhere to go. So he has a drinking problem. So guess what he was doing on Thursday and Friday? Hitting the bars. And he couldn't stop drinking. And what we found is, as long as he had structure, he refrained from it, because after work he'd go home, like on Monday through Wednesday, and go home and deal with his family, and he was fine. It's when he had unaccountable time that he got himself in trouble all the time. And so we talked about that, and he realized it, and he goes, I've got to make a change. I'm going to lose my family. And so what his decision was, get this, I gotta applaud this guy. I mean, he moved out of California, he's back east somewhere. But what he did is he changed careers. He changed careers to get a better structure. And so this guy was willing to take less money, to get more structure in his life so that he wouldn't drink. And you know what? Talking to him later on, he overcame it. And one of the major reasons, obviously, was he now started being accountable with his life and his time. And I want you to think about this on another level. Look what happened last year and still continuing to those who don't work. They shut us down for an entire year. They told the kids not to go to school. They kept everyone at home. And what happened was people had unaccountable time, no structure. And having no structure jacked everyone up. Sleeping patterns got off, people staying up till 3 in the morning, getting up at noon, no accountability, not going to school, not going to work. Guess what happened? increases in alcoholism, increases in drugs, increases in pornography, increases in depression, increases in every aspect, including marital infidelity, suicides went up, sexual morality went up, pornography use went up. Why? No structure. I'm not saying that's the only thing. I'm telling you that's one of the major components of how people get themselves messed up. They don't have a structure. See, work is designed to put sin at bay. Six days shall you labor, and one day you will rest. Now, one of the reasons that God instituted work is to give a person structure. And then what that structure does as you work and do what you're called to do, you get tired at the end of the day. And so you want to sleep, which is a good thing because your tiredness puts a cap on what you can do on your own. So, man, I'm exhausted and you hit the hay and you're out. Great. That actually prevents you from getting into all kinds of weird stuff. It's people who do not have a structure, are not tired at the end of the day, that they end up staying up all night, and then they get themselves in messes. You ever heard that saying, nothing good happens after midnight? It's true in a lot of ways. The criminal activity after midnight goes crazy. Do you know why? Because the person either is not working, think about somebody in a gang, right? They're not working. They're not tired, and so they enter into the evening times, and they have all this energy, they're all wound up, and they go look for stuff to do, because they're bored, and they get themselves into problems. It's called having no structure. David has now put himself in a position like that, where he's not where he's at, he has no structure, and he's lounging. He's lounging. Structural. who would help us. But look at verse two. Verse two says this. Then it happened one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king's house. Now you think, what's the big deal about that? There's nothing there, Brandon. Oh yeah, there's a lot there. Because he has no structure, because he's not tired from battle and working with the soldiers, he's up at night. He can't sleep. Can't sleep. Oh yeah, yeah, that's what happens when you have all this energy. He tries to go to bed, can't go to sleep, so he's up all night. And guess what he's doing up? He's walking on his roof. He's setting himself up. He is setting himself up because he can't sleep. Now, let me add another mitigating factor about David. He's putting himself in a vulnerable position right now, but let me tell you about his past. This is another component that you and I have to bring into our personal lives. David is a man of rejection. He's been rejected from day one by his own father. And this rejection theme continues all through David's life, all through it. David is a typology for the Messiah. Messiah would be a man of rejection. The suffering servant would be rejected, right? Messiah would be rejected. David portrays that in his own personal life. So let's start with the rejection and where it began. So Saul, the first king of Israel, is a complete disaster. He's like Joe Biden. He's a complete disaster. And so all he's doing is eating ice cream and letting the kingdom go to pot. Okay? And so, obviously, it causes so much problems. God tells Samuel, we got to appoint another king. This ice cream eating king is not helping. He's out of his mind. He's demonic. So we gotta appoint a new king. Samuel wants to go to Jesse's house, and there in Bethlehem will be a king there, and I want you to anoint him. So Samuel, the prophet, goes to Jesse's house in Bethlehem. Obviously the conversation with Jesse, hey man, God says the king's in your house, bring out your boys, I wanna see him. And one of them's gonna be it. So line him up. And so Jesse brings out his boys. And Samuel's like, all right, no, no, no, no. Jesse, is this all you have? Because I'm coming up empty. I'm striking out on all your boys. So I know God didn't misdirect me. What do you got going on here? Is there another boy? Yeah, yeah, there's this other guy out here. He's a little runt. He's David. He's out taking care of the sheep. But I didn't call him in. He's not king material. Come on. He doesn't have it. Call him in. David comes in. That's our king. But what happened? Apparently, David's dad didn't think he was king material. That's called rejection. Don't think that for a moment David didn't feel that. And early on in his life, his dad doesn't accept him. But God does. God does. That starts the theme of rejection. So follow me on this. So then the battle of the Philistines come and Goliath's out there taunting them. David comes and runs into his brothers on the front line and to give them supplies. His brothers then reject him and say, hey man, what are you doing here? You have no place here. Go back home. You're crazy. Get out of here. You have no business opening your mouth. So his own brothers reject him. But then he goes and defeats the Philistines. You know the rest of the story. So then he gets in good with Saul. And there for a while, everything's going great, right? Everything's going great, but then Saul, because he has cognitive problems, and he's demonically inspired, and he's jealous of David, because David's killing his 10,000, and he's getting famous for his battle exploits. So Saul turns jealous on him, and then starts rejecting David to the point he rejects him so much, he tries to kill him. And so David has to go on the run. And David's on the run, and you know about that whole situation when he's on the run from Saul. And so then Saul hunts him down, trying to kill David. And he's hiding, right, in the caves, and hiding with his men. But the rest of Israel's hunting this king David down. And they are, in effect, rejecting his office as king. Okay, later on, Saul dies in a battle. And obviously, well, let's turn to the real king. Saul's gone, let's go to David. Well, that doesn't happen too smoothly. The transition's not very good for Israel. So David's now on the scene, he's the king of Israel, he's the said king of Israel, but I think it was like 10 tribes reject David as king. Only two tribes accept him, I believe. My memory serves me right. And so he's only able to be king over a certain region of Israel, and the rest of Israel rejects him as king. Rejection. It takes David seven more years until the full nation will accept his kinghood. You think the rejection's done yet? So now he's king of Israel. Who could reject him? Who could possibly reject him at this point? His own sons, that's who, Absalom, rejects the dad. David is a man of rejection. Now, with that being said, let me show you how Satan works with rejection. and hold on to your hats, because this will be a mind warp. So the individual, the primary thing that most people fight in their life is rejection by their parental unit, or their dad, or their mom, or their siblings in the family. They get rejected, okay? That's the number one thing. There's other factors, no doubt about it, but I want to center on this one. So the person's feeling rejected. That means they're not getting the love, the attention, the affection from their parents or one of their parents they feel. Whether it's real or perceived. They don't feel like they're getting that kind of love. So they go looking for it. If I can't find it at home, I'll find it out there. And they go looking for this unconditional love that we all want. Now that unconditional love comes from Jesus. It comes from God. That's where we get unconditional love. But they think, well, I'll go find it out there in another person. And so it starts them on that look. And Satan knows that they're doing this. So then what Satan does is he turns this search for love and he perverts it and twists it in their mind to where they start seeing that sex is love. Okay? Now let me back up a little bit in how clever Satan is. Like I told you, sex is a right in marriage. Okay? But here's what has to happen. There are actually four components involved in bonding. Sex is the fourth component because it's a physical bonding. So let me start here. The couple must bond spiritually first. Before we even get to the physical. The couple must bond emotionally The couple must bond mentally. That's what's supposed to happen in dating. You have to bond in those three areas, and then, before we bond physically, we take the step of saying, yes, I do, and then we bond at the fourth level of physical. And the physical then is a metaphysical bonding that bonds you to the other person. But you have to have the other components prior to that before you physically bond with the person and metaphysically bond with them. The two should become one. That's where the two become one, okay? What Satan does is he takes the fourth component that's in the marriage unit and takes that and he puts it first in the person's life. and says, use the fourth component, and we'll twist that to mean love. Sex is about bonding. Sex is about relationship, okay? If you turn sex into love, you're gonna mess this whole thing up, but that's what he does. So, the person says, I'll go find love, and they start having sex with people. And this is why people get promiscuous in high school. and into their 20s before they even get married. And so then what happens is Satan gets another thing on them and they don't even know this is happening. So they're seeking love in partners. And so they go to one partner and they have the sex and they're like, that didn't satisfy. Let me try another one. No, this one, no, this one, no. And they keep this search going on. The problem is they're searching for the wrong thing and they're using the wrong definition of the word love to mean sex. And he's got him. He's totally got him. They don't even know this is happening to them. But, the other thing that's happening, like I said, the fourth category is what bonds the person to each other. So if they're having sex with all these different people, guess what they're doing? They are bonding to them metaphysically without bonding mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And as they bond, every time they let go of that relationship, a piece of them stays there. Then they bond to this person, a piece of them stays there. And then a piece of them stays here. And then a piece of them stays here. And a piece of them stays there. And before you know it, by the time they get married, By the time they get married, Satan has got them in another twisted pretzel that they're going to experience in their marriage. And it's the inability to bond to their spouse. Because they've bonded to so many people, and they've so disengaged so much, they don't have an ability to bond correctly. And so he now causes another problem that has future implications for their marriage. The two will never really connect that well until they learn how to. But they won't bond. Satan's got him there. Let alone diseases and all kinds of other crazy stuff. Kids being born out of wedlock and the problems that come from that. Satan has him on that. But it's the lack of bonding he starts hitting. That being the case, What starts happening to the person is when they see that love is sex and they need love and agape love constantly, guess what that will do to their sex drive? It skyrockets it. Because if you view sex as love, you need more of that love. Because we all need love, right? So in their mind, more sex, more sex, more sex is love. They equate more sex to love. And this sets up addictions. This sets up pornography addictions. This sets up sexual addictions and all kinds of stuff because a person views sex as love. And so the person will be unrestrained. And this is how they'll say, well I just have a high sex drive, you know. My testosterone's off the roof. Usually guys are saying things like that. And it's true, guys are biologically different. I get that, that's cool, I get that. But what I'm saying, it'll go off the rails. Because if the guy's dealing with rejection, his issue is not about getting his needs met, his real need is not sex, his real need is a lack of rejection. He needs unconditional love. And so this becomes the fight in the marriage and they don't understand it's not that the person needs more sex, they need more love. That's the problem. But they think they just need more. And like I said at the beginning, is sex a need? No, it is a right. It is a right, it's not a human need. Now, I give you that background, and we're gonna go deeper into David's life, but I wanted to make those two major points about David, unstructured time and rejection and how it affects him. Because here's what will happen to David, and I wanna put it out there before we go any further. Yes, these things contribute to setting the person up for a fall, No doubt about it, I will acknowledge that, you will acknowledge that. But at the end, it is not the deciding factor. The deciding factor from David will be a choice that he makes. And because he makes a choice, he's responsible. And that's the same thing with you and I. We can have all these converging factors that actually set us up, but at the end of the day, you have to make a choice. And here's the choice that David will make, and it's unfortunate, but here's the choice. He will put his so-called needs, need for affirmation, love, affection, all that stuff, he will put those needs above his commitments to the Lord and to others. And we can't do that. Right now, you're seeing this on full display in Afghanistan, guys. On a societal level, we made promises as a government to the Afghanis that if you help us, we'll help you. Our soldiers were told by the brass, hey, recruit some of these people to be interpreters for us, to be spies for us. And so our soldiers sat there at campfires with the Afghanis saying, hey, look, let us use your teenager. He can be an interpreter for us. And when the time comes, we won't leave you. We'll take you with us. We'll take you back to America. We made promises like that. You help us, we'll take you to America. And what happened with last week and the week before? All those promises went nowhere. We abandoned all of them because of some deep state need. So you can even see this on a societal level that we abandoned our commitments for whatever the deep state wanted. So that's in fuel view. So the takeaway is this. Don't ever let your needs get ahead of your commitments and your promises. Let's pray.