a sub-series of why she isn't married. This is our third message in this part of the marriage series. Today we'll deal with immodest dress in life. That will be a major reason. The picture over here that says, The point is, we have women distrusting God. Distrusting what He says. Leaning to their own understanding, listening to the culture, instead of listening to what God says. About creation. About men and women. And then, this immodest dress in life is going to create a major distrust in men. They're going to fear to marry you. That's just the absolute truth. If he's a good man. Father, do help us. We thank You for this church, those who've come out in the rainy weather, and we thank You so much. And I bless this message and all those who hear it online and in this room. In Jesus' name, Amen. Our text is 1 Timothy 2, verse 9, "...in like manner also that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness," something we don't really talk about a lot, "...and sobriety." not with broidered hair, that's braids, or gold, or pearls, or costly array, but which becometh women professing godliness with good works." A major text of this section of our series is 1 Timothy 5, which we've gone through. I will, therefore, that the younger women marry their children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. That is, to look at you and say, well, you're supposed to be Christian. You're supposed to follow the Bible. Why don't you walk in morality that even those that follow Buddha sometimes, or those that follow the false god Allah, or whatever they may be, if they can understand a certain degree of morality, then we ought to be at the forefront of leading them. So in asking the question, why isn't she married? We've already examined two reasons. First reason we examined was no desire. She has no desire to get married. And we've shown how the key to that in this day and age, there's more to it, but the key to that for women today is propaganda from devils. The Bible predicted it, prophesied it. Devils will bring a propaganda that says, do not marry. And the fallen culture, the deception, the trick, and you end up basically being tricked as many feminists have found out, and many who followed them found out this was all a trick. It was a trick. The second reason we dealt with last week was God's timing. I do not intend to have you think that everyone who's not married that wants to be, it's because of your sin, or something you're doing wrong, or something you're neglecting. That's just not the truth in every single situation. I'm trying to cover the basis here so you can examine yourself and see if you are doing something in your responsibility to hinder this. A lot of times, God is preparing you or your future spouse. He might have secret reasons, whether He's revealed them to you or not. You might be going through some type of suffering, some type of trial for reasons unknown. It's for God's glory. Or it could be discipline, even. So, God's timing is definitely, and when we say God's timing, we mean what God desires to happen, and sometimes He allows in His sovereignty you to interrupt what His will is, not His ultimate will, or put it this way, His preferred will for your life. Now, let's go on to the third reason we'll cover tonight. And that is one reason many Christian women are not married is because of immodesty. This might be surprising to many, but I'm going to tell you, it is a major reason. And I'm going to show you why this is a major reason. Once they start thinking, well, this isn't working out. I'm really not getting married. I got to do more to try to impress a man or try to catch a man. And what might happen is they're doing the absolutely worst thing they could possibly do. and I'll explain this as we move on. There's actually three aspects to this, three things under this heading of immodesty for why this is hindering women from getting married. The first one is immodesty in the first definition, in the woman seeking marriage. So she's immodest herself, the first definition of immodesty, and this is hindering her marriage. The second aspect is immodesty in the second definition in the woman seeking marriage. And both of these, whether it is in the first definition or the second definition, this immodesty in her life, in her dress, is causing a hindrance in men. In men that would want to marry her. There is a third, but we don't have time to deal with that tonight. So we're going to leave tonight's message to basically these points. These two points. Immodesty, first definition, in the woman. Immodesty, second definition, in the woman. These two issues affect the desire or willingness of the man to marry her. They can affect the desire of the woman. We've already covered her lack of desire because of propaganda, but we're dealing now mainly with women who desire to marry to some degree. So, we're focusing upon women who want to marry. They have not been deceived by propaganda in one sense. It hasn't totally taken away their desire to marry. The problem is they are not able to find a good man to marry who would be willing to marry her. And this is a common problem in conservative homeschooled churches around the country today. And I want you to see tonight how immodesty changes the way multitudes of men, even those who are disobedient and are not saved, multitudes of men, so that they no longer desire or are willing to take a chance in marrying you. So we will deal with the first issue first. What is normally understood by the word immodest? Lewdness in dressing. Paul tells us, I'll remind you, 1 Timothy 2, and like manner also, that women adorn themselves, make yourself pretty, adorn. You know what adornment is? Adorn themselves in modest apparel. You are allowed, in fact you are commanded, to make yourself pretty in your clothing. but it is to be modest clothing. There's a qualifier there. God, through the Holy Spirit, commands you, as a woman, make yourself pretty in your clothing, but make sure it's modest. Make sure it's modest. With shamefacedness, sobriety, not with boited hair, gold, pearls, costly array, but which becometh women professing godliness. If you profess godliness, if you profess to want to grow in godliness, you should not be adorning yourself in immodest apparel. We've already dealt so many times with the word not here. Not with broided hair, braided hair, gold, pearls, or costly array. We found out through many scriptures that this not is a not of emphasis, meaning not putting the emphasis upon these things. As the Bible says, we could quote so many verses, but we will quote, labor not for the meat which perisheth. But for that which endures unto everlasting light." Certainly, the Lord did not mean you're not allowed to work for a living. You're commanded to work for a living. So, that is a nod of emphasis, and it's all throughout the Scripture. And I'll prove further, as we have before, that this is a nod of emphasis. In fact, it's saying you should have the broided hair and the other things if you so desire. Notice 1 Peter chapter 3, who's adorning, talking about the godly woman. Let it not be that outward adorning. Well, what do you mean? We could just stop right there. Let it not, there's a not, be that outward adorning. So Peter, through the Holy Ghost, is telling you, don't adorn yourself outwardly. Well, that can't be a not, an absolute not. That is a not of emphasis. Paul already just commanded you to adorn yourself in apparel. So Peter says, whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting, that's like braiding the hair, and of wearing a gold, or of putting on of apparel. And we know good and well that this would be totally contradicting Paul. Paul said, adorn yourself with modest apparel, but make sure it's modest. Now Peter's saying, don't at all adorn yourself by putting on apparel. Well, that wouldn't be modest at all, would it? That wouldn't be modest at all. We want you to put on clothes. Apparel means clothes, okay? It has to do with your outward appearance in your clothes and presentation. For example, 2 Peter 1 says, you daughters of Israel, weep over Saul, who clothed you in scarlet with other delights, who put on ornaments of gold on your apparel. That is on your clothes. He doesn't want you to wear clothes. He does not want that to be your only focus, or even your main focus. 2 Samuel 13, And she had a garment of diverse colors upon her. For with such robes were the king's daughters that were virgins appareled. It says in 2 Samuel 12, then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his apparel. What did he change? He changed his clothes. He changed his clothes. In fact, the Holy Ghost is going to give you a big warning here. Paul said, make sure you adorn yourself in modest apparel. Your apparel does matter. Your apparel does matter. It says in Zephaniah 1, I will utterly consume all things from off the land, saith the Lord. Hold thy peace at the presence of the Lord God, for the day of the Lord is at hand. And it shall come to pass in the day of the Lord's sacrifice, His judgment, that I will punish. That's punishment. Who's He going to punish? the princes, and the king's children, and all such as are clothed with strange apparel." You say clothes don't matter? Then why does God give you a Bible verse that says that the second coming, I'm coming out of the sky, and what are the things I will judge you for? We'll be at the judgment seat of Christ. We'll be strange apparel. You have on strange apparel. So the issue with Paul and Peter is that godliness, inward and outward, make sure you don't forget either one of them, okay? Don't forget either one of them. God ordained His bride in beautiful garments and jewelry. He didn't go paint her face all up and put a modest clothing on her and things like that, but God ordained her, adorned her in beauty. It's very important that we understand that. A woman is to make sure she's not making herself beautiful on the outside while she's filled with rebellion, and haughtiness, and stubbornness, and deceit. And I'm going to tell you, if your inside is messed up, you can try to fake it. But sooner or later, somewhere, that stuff's coming out on the outside. Nine times out of ten, you're going to start seeing what's on the heart from the outside. You just got to watch. It takes a little time for fruit to manifest itself. What does he mean here, strange apparel? Strange often refers to something out of place. Listen to me now. Sodom went after strange flesh. That means men went after men. That's strange. Because men are designed by God to marry women, but they went after other men. That's strange. That's perverted. We call it queer, which means the same exact thing. Strange. Perverted. The women went after women. That's strange. Angels went after women. Angels who were not men, men in the sense of earthly men, went after women. That's strange. That's prohibited. That's out of line. So this refers to women and men wearing each other's clothes. That's strange. That's strange. The Bible uses the word strange to speak of an adulterous woman, not your wife. That's strange. She's a strange woman. So what we see here is immodesty, lewdness, cross-dressing, and that type of thing. It will cost you. It will cost you at the judgment seat of Christ. We see in Proverbs 7, "'And behold, there met him a woman with the attire,' that's the apparel, "'of a harlot, a prostitute, and subtle of heart. "'She's loud and stubborn, her feet abide not in her house.'" She's all over Facebook and social media, meeting people, talking to them behind her husband's back. She's out on the street, somewhere down the road. She's not at home, and she ends up in sin. Jeremiah 2 uses this word, a ketamade, a virgin, a young woman, forget her ornaments. Or a bride, her attire. Yet many people have forgotten me, days without number. It's as if God's saying, will a virgin who wants to get married forget her ornaments? God says, that's a strange thing. She's not going to beautify herself, beautify her hair. That's a strange thing to God. But we've gone so far today, not only are women forgetting feminine beauty, they're forgetting to wear clothes. Imagine wanting somebody to marry you, but you're walking around immodest. I think we have so much confusion today about this whole subject. And I want you to think tonight from a male perspective the best you can. So how am I going to do that? You have a God that revealed to you this whole subject. And I'm going to do my best to preach it and teach it a little bit tonight. I think our Lord is all for outward adorning on women that is feminine. And how much more in this fallen, perverted, confused culture today That's why not only do I think it's beautiful, and most men that I know, and it's holy, and it seems to please God all throughout the Bible, but, wow. I tell you what, make the sodomites angry. I tell you, go far in your manliness, and go far as a woman in your femininity. I mean, emphasize it. Emphasize it in this culture today. Stand up and say, yes, I'm a woman. I'm a godly, feminine woman, and emphasize it. And you'll make everybody around you mad, and I think that's the reason a lot of people don't want to do it. But you're not going to make the angels, you're not going to make God mad. See? So emphasize it. And do it for the children. Children need that emphasis today because everything, look at Disney, look at the culture, it has blurred the gender for how many years now? 50? 70 years? 80 years? Do what you can to emphasize and push that thing back on the foundation of what God says a man and a woman is. But when you emphasize your beauty, don't leave the other undone. Don't leave the inward beauty. Make sure you have a feminine spirit, a feminine attitude, a feminine demeanor. Now, some may object with a question. They might say, the woman in Proverbs is enticing a man. And she has on the attire of a harlot. And she's even loud and stubborn. So this proves to me, if I'm loud and stubborn, and I have the attire of a harlot, that I will attract a man. I say no. No, it doesn't imply that. First, it doesn't imply that she's loud and stubborn with the man she's trying to attract. If you read the text closely, it's giving you a definition of what she is in reality and in life. But with the man, it actually says, she caught him not by being loud and stubborn, she caught him with her much fair speech. How about that? With her flattering lips. In other words, she's affirming his masculine identity and male confidence. But she's using it for the wrong reason. She's already married to a good man, which she confesses is a good man. So she's an adulteress. Now, the answer to the attire of a harlot First of all, in earlier times, as I've shown over the years, a harlot was known only by her feet, ankles, and bottom leg. Look at the Greek pottery and the prostitutes. But before getting into all of that, I say today we ought to strengthen the things that remain. We ought to do our best to stress God's definition of modesty, but nobody's coming around and inspecting feet and that type of thing. The important thing is don't draw attention. The Bible says the women of Zion, they're haughty and they're wearing little bells so they can try to make you look at the ankle and that type of thing, and they're trying to draw attention to that in an enticing way, and so that's really the important part of this in this day and age. So I want you to realize that the attire of a harlot through many centuries was not in many cases different other than just a few signs to show that you are a harlot. You can go way, way back and remember you'll find in Genesis 38 when Judah saw her, he thought her to be a harlot because she had covered her face. So here's this woman. She's out sitting on the street corner. As Clark says, it appears that sitting in some open place and covering the face was the evidence of a harlot. In other words, she don't want anybody to know her identity, but she's out here looking for customers. Remember, our text says, the attire of a harlot and subtle of heart. At other times, we see that Jezebel is called a harlot, and we see her painting her face and trying to entice the king who wasn't going to buy it at all. He said, throw her down. He had one of the eunuchs throw her down and the dogs ate her flesh. We see in Jeremiah, one of the common features of the harlots was painting the face and that type of thing. But inside the Bible, the exact manner in which she put on the attire of a harlot isn't important for my argument tonight. It only proves my point. However you define that. However you define that. Remember this one point. When that adulterous woman, married to a good man, put on the attire of a harlot, please remember this, that man who came after her was not looking for a wife. Do you understand that? He was not looking for a wife. He wasn't looking for somebody to marry. He was not looking for a woman that he trusted to marry in holy wedlock. She's showing good and well. She can't be trusted. She's cheating on her husband. He was looking for sin. And one of the last things that foolish man wanted was such a woman continuing to contact him. So what we learn from the Scriptures already is that that's not how to attract a husband. So let's look at our first point under this heading of immodesty, as to why many women are not married. The first definition is... Oxford Dictionary, when you look at the word modesty, it says a female attire. Well, that's exactly the definition we want. What's the first definition for Oxford English Dictionary? We're dealing with modest apparel, What is modest apparel, according to the Oxford Dictionary, spanning the centuries? It's not inspired, but oh my, you ought to see the thing. The Prince Micro. About killed my eyes tonight trying to look up all that stuff here. Used to have a magnifying glass for it. It's in volume after volume after volume. A female attire, modest, means decent and not meretricious. There it is. First definition. So Paul's saying make sure you dress in clothing that's decent and not meretricious. Say, what in the world is meretricious? Webster's 1828, from Latin, meretricious, from meretrix, a prostitute. Oh, okay, I get it. Pertaining to prostitutes, such as is practiced by harlots. So, one of the things Paul's saying, mainly here, is don't you wear clothing that harlots wear. Especially in our culture today. Don't give any signs. that you are like that in any way, in any way, in any way. Oxford goes on to tell us, decent prostitutes are indecent. Summed up, I believe Oxford defines this as saying modest attire refers to clothes and outward appearance that is not like a harlot is not unchaste. What is this word unchaste? Titus says the aged women are to teach the younger women to be discreet. There's a good word. Chaste. These words we don't study. Go home and look them up in the dictionary. and try to figure out what is discreet on a woman? What is chaste on a woman? Keepers at home, good. Obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blasphemous. What if aged women in the churches across America, even in the Baptist churches across America, began to say, I'm an aged woman, I'm going to teach the younger wives to be discreet, number one. To be chaste, number two. To be keepers at home, good. Obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blasphemous. We'd have a revival all across this land. What does chaste mean? Peter says in the very chapter we're dealing with today, 1 Peter 3, while these disobedient husbands, while they behold your chaste conversation lifestyle, coupled with fear. He says you will influence them. You will win them. There's a big chance is what he's saying that you can change this disobedient husband if you will learn chastity. if you will have a chaste conversation coupled with fear." It doesn't mean that it guarantees a man will always be good. It doesn't guarantee your disobedient husband will repent. But the Holy Ghost is telling you, I tell you what, the greatest chance of all that you're going to have that your disobedient husband will get right with God is if you will have chaste conversation coupled with fear. Fear of God and respect for your husband. What does chaste even mean? Etymology Online says it comes from a French word which means morally pure. From Latin, castus, which means clean, pure, morally pure. Like in language, free from obscenity. The word chaste means not obscene. Just like not indecent. Not obscene in any way. Clean and pure. Chaste clothing would be clothing that speaks of purity, holiness, honor, and godliness. So not only your clothes, but your conversation, your whole life should not be morally dirty, or even playing around with sin, or flirting with sin and impurity. What's the problem then? Well, you've got a culture. continuously, almost every month, pushes the line to what's obscene. It's so far gone now, you can't watch an awards show, or a football game, or Super Bowl, or go to the mall, or anything. In other words, it's time now. You have to retreat to a high degree from this fallen culture. It's gone beyond just a little bit immodest. It is sick and satanic and defiled and so much so that I can't even talk about it from the pulpit what this culture is eating and drinking and their entertainment. So, they keep redefining what immodest is. Keep pushing the line further and further and further away. So you can't use the culture as your definition. You have to find a standard, and that standard is God's Word. And you can look back at history to see whatever changes they had. For most of history, and especially the times of revival, there were some basics that were always there. I'm thankful that right now in our culture there is, in some places, a reaction, a pushback, a sort of shock that says, oh no, this is disgusting. Our forefathers and the fundamentalists were right. This is insanity. Dead babies, fatherless homes, this vile filth like a bunch of animals. Anybody with just a little bit of conscience says, I'm getting off the boat. Forget it. I'm not going that way. I'm not even gonna try to please these people. I'm jumping off this sinking boat. Now let's focus on our point at hand. What does this immodesty and dress in a woman do to a man? What does it signal to him? Let's let the Holy Ghost tell us. Lamentations 1. Jerusalem hath grievously sinned, therefore she is removed. All that honored her despise her, because they have seen her nakedness. You can ignore that verse if you want. But you want to look at celebrities and stars and movies. Once a woman shows herself, she goes downhill nine times out of ten. There's some of these movie star celebrities that did that early on, and now they're out on the streets doing meth, homeless, under bridges. Some of them are dead. Some of them lost everything. You could see story after story after story comes up. But you don't have to look at the celebrities. It's just a general truth. Anybody that went to high school understands this. It's a common thing. When she's kept herself pure and she walks around in purity, it creates an honor. It creates respect. When she dishonors herself by showing something she should be showing to her husband, it doesn't mean nobody will use her. What it means is, She's going to be despised. As Isaiah says, thy nakedness shall be uncovered, thy shame shall be seen. Now she might be as the Sodomites and they have no shame whatsoever left in her. She cannot be ashamed. She cannot blush. But that doesn't mean that the men around her are not looking and saying, hmm, that's not one I'm going to marry. It's communicating something to the men around you. And this is what I'd like to get through to many women of this generation. I'd like to speak to the homeschooled, conservative women that are out there looking for husbands and they want to get married. You could look on Facebook, you could look and see them. A lot of them have maybe what you would say gotten desperate, or maybe they were never understood this all along, and they are making their self further unattractive to a man that's a godly man that would want to marry her. They're giving off signs that this is not the woman you want. She's got a problem. There are men without brains, but many men will reason this way." That's a turn-off. She may be pretty in some ways, but if she's showing herself now, she may show herself to others right after we get married. And if she doesn't immediately show herself to others and start being immodest around, what about later in our marriage when we go through some type of trial? In other words, it's a trust issue. Men may be dumb in some areas, but they're not dumb usually in this type of thing. Many may have learned the hard way. There will be some men that'll say, hmm, maybe I can disciple her into modesty. I think she's pretty and she looks like a sweet girl. I think I can disciple her into being modest down the road once I get her married to her. But all the fellow's friends will say, that's not a good plan. And he'll always have doubt and be unsure whether that will ever happen. Here's one thing I want you to remember. We have a snowball of divorce and adultery right now, exploding in growth. And what comes with that adultery is some... I meant with divorce, is some fella usually paying child support because the court gave his children mainly to the woman who initiated the divorce. I'm not saying there's not bad men and bad men that have ruined their marriages and committed it. I'm not saying that. I'm telling you that even the worldly people, even the worldly researchers that do not know God, even they admit that 70 to 80 percent of divorces are caused by women in this day and age. And it's not usually over some major reason. It's, I don't feel like I love you anymore. I'm just fickle. So, men know this. How many men have somebody in their family who right now is paying child support? They might know a brother who's paying child support for a 30-year-old son because he's still in debt. They go to work and they see men all around them paying child support because they went and got married. They say, I thought I could trust her. Thought I could trust her. So what does that man say? Boy, looking at my cousins and my uncle and my brother, looking at all these people at work, they say, hey, you gonna get married? Not me, buddy. Uh-uh. I see how they're all ending up. Not me, not in America. Maybe I'll get something from the Ukraine or somewhere in another country, you know? Maybe they're okay, but no, I'm not marrying an American woman. That's what they're saying. That is what they are saying out there. I'm not talking about good Christian fundamental fellas. I'm talking about good old boys that work hard, they drink their beer, they go about their business, they show up at work for the most part, but they're like, no way, I'll go to another country or I won't get married. That's what they're saying. So in that climate, you walk around and say, I'm immodest. I'm showing myself to everybody. Because if you're walking around Walmart showing yourself, you're not just showing yourself to somebody you like, you're showing yourself to everybody. And that man who already is afraid to get married says, no, I might take her out, but I'm not marrying her. So what about the good fellows? The sober fellas, the good fellas, the people that fear God or trying to live right, the good Christian conservative godly fellas, what about them? What do you think your modesty says to them? Okay? If it's already scaring off the other fellas, how much more is it scaring off a good, sober, godly, wise, discreet Christian man? He says, no way am I going after that. So what are you left with? You're left with somebody with no brains at all, and if you want to marry somebody with no brains at all, you're not going to be a happy camper. Or you're left with somebody that's going to lie to you. Somebody's going to say, yeah, I'd like a relationship with you, but he's just using you. And he tells all his friends, no, I'm not going to marry her. Marry her? I can't trust her. I'm just using her. Even the world knows this. Bentley Education says, Lecture in Natural and Applied Sciences, Clarissa Sawyer, believes that many millennials, etc., are hesitant to marry due to their threat of divorce. Due to the threat of divorce! She's interviewed them. She's researched it. They don't want to marry because they're afraid of divorce! How much more the man? There's a movement around the country to try to balance the effects of divorce when it comes to child support and child custody and that type of thing. But for the most part, it's still bent in the woman's favor. I've talked about the book by Phyllis Schlafly, where she talks about what destroyed the family in America. I advise you to read it. Talking about this subject right here. Oh man, many men who have half a brain left will say, I'm going to do whatever it takes not to end up like that dude. The more immodest you are, the more flirty you are with others, the more red flags are going to pop up all around you. And you might have a lot of guys whistling at you, talking about you, who want to use you. But a lot of these women end up writing articles and talking to dear whoever, whatever. Why won't any of these fellas marry me? Because you're giving off signs that you're not marriage material. You're another kind. You've got other purposes. Warning! Warning! Not marriage material! Don't even think about missionary marriage! Don't even think about trying to disciple her into marriage! That's too big of a gamble! If you doubt any of this that I'm telling you tonight, you do not know men. I know men because I am a man. And number two, I have counseled for decades in my back office every type of man you could imagine. I've sat as a guitar teacher almost all my life with men after man after man, and a lot of times they put down their guitar and they weep with me and they cry and they say, can I ask you a question? That's before I was even a pastor. What's going on, man? I was helping people with these types of problems before I even became a pastor. I'm like, man, I'm trying to teach guitar, but everybody's using me as a counselor. I hear what the men say in the back office. Single man, married man, don't you tell me that your immodesty isn't a red flag to any man that would want to marry you. Go ahead and believe the propaganda. Go ahead. Lean to your own understanding. I'm not here to trick you. I'm here to help you. And my heart's desire is for many women that are out there right now, good Christian godly women, for the most part, who don't understand what I'm saying tonight, and they're not married, and I'm shaking my head, well, obviously why? You're a good conservative woman, but there's a reason you're not married, sister. And you could come up with everything you want to come up, and I'm not judging you, but I'm saying you're putting out red flags. You're showing people you're not a safe catch whatsoever. Just too worldly. And you're too Christian for a man who's not conservative. So you're right there in the middle and you get knocked down by both sides. You make everybody mad. So now the worldly man won't mess with you because you've got too many standards and you don't want him anyway. Like, I don't want you. You're probably not even work for a living. You're probably been alcoholic or drunk or something. I don't want you. And then guess what? The Christian man who's walking in obedience, he says, no, go please the worldly fella. That's what you're looking for, obviously. I'm going to be the mother of my children." See, in this wicked state of things today, you will always be a gamble to a prudent man. It's gone so far that an American woman is a gamble to a prudent man. So there's a whole movement of men out there, MGTOW and other names, and they're interviewing them all over the internet, all over YouTube. They say, forget women. And they're not necessarily sodomites, you know what I mean? A lot of them are saying, no, I'm not a sodomite. I'm just forgetting women. I'm not, you're not going to catch me in some court of law and mess me all up, mess up my life for the rest of my, uh-uh, I'm done. I'm done with women. Not all men are there. What most of them are saying is, forget marriage. I'll have a girlfriend for a while until I get tired of her, she gets tired of me, then I'll get another girlfriend. I'll just go like that. Forget marriage. That's why I interview people all over the place. I get personal with them. So, why'd you come here? I have a girlfriend. You gonna marry her? He looks down, kind of gets nervous. I'm like, hey bud, come here. You gonna marry your girlfriend? Why aren't you gonna marry her? How long y'all been seeing one another? Six years? Are you gonna marry her? What are you doing, man? And it's always, why? He might not come out and say that exactly, but sooner or later, he just says, why? I already got everything I want. Basically, he's saying, why don't I mess up a good thing? Why don't I want to end up with this risk and this gamble? No, no, too big of a gamble. What you're asking a man to do is, there's a copperhead. Why don't you pick it up by the tail? It might not bite you. Ha! It's very pretty. Thank you, brother. Look at that gorgeous... Yeah, that's nice. Pick it up by the tail. Just an American woman. Pick her up. Pick it up by the... Nope. They either give up on marriage, or they're addicted to pornography, or they have one-night stands and quick relationships. where they lead women on, I love you, you're so sweet, and oh yeah, yeah, you're the only one for me, sweetie, yeah, yeah, yeah. Others may be different, but in all of these, they're gonna argue, why should I risk marriage? Why should I risk marriage? Another worldly researcher, College Fix reports, Mark Regnerus, a professor of sociology at University of Texas at Austin, warns against what dating apps have done to women and marriage. You can cycle through lots of people very quickly. It objectifies people. You just become an object, you know. What can I get from you? It diminishes what I call upfront investment costs. People are more likely to think, I could find someone better and drop a relationship when any challenges arise. So they've got these apps and all these things where they could have quick fixes and quick relationships, and nobody has to invest anything. Just go through person after person after person. And even if you decide, well, maybe I'd want to marry her, just click again. Oh, there's a whole bunch more out there. I don't want to marry any of them. That's what they're saying. I'll just date a whole bunch of them. I'll spend my life dating, you know. And of course the mom and the grandma, when are you going to get married? When are you going to get married? He comes to church, he listens to some preaching sometimes, he says, no, I'm not getting married. So you got fornication that is an infestation, brother, of churches all across America. I remember a man backslid one time, a young fellow, and he met me out on the streets and he came over to me, almost tears in his eyes, and he came over to me and he says, bro, all that you've been preaching, you will not believe what it's like out there. All the women are bad." I said, all the women aren't bad, brother. He said, most of them are. This leads to the second point quickly. Immodesty in the second definition. The Bible says the women of Zion are haughty. You could be immodest in your apparel, but you might just be immodest in your whole character. Proverbs calls it loud and stubborn, and Peter, through the Holy Ghost, shows that a woman who wants to win her disobedient husband has a greater chance if she has a meek and quiet spirit and is respectful and reverent in her speech and demeanor. You could be immodest in your character. You can lack femininity in your character. And the Bible says, even if your husband isn't one with this meek and quiet spirit, you surely please God, because in His eyes you'll be of great price. Now listen to this now. If you've got any attention left, we're almost done here. You know the Roman Empire was filled with debauchery. Peter wrote in chapter 3 of this same epistle, not chapter 3, but 4, the time past of our life when we walked in lasciviousness and lust. Peter's dealing with the Roman Empire that's fallen. But Peter nevertheless, in that climate, says through the Holy Ghost that a wife with a disobedient husband in that culture has a greater chance of winning him by being meek and godly and respectful. Now, if this is true of a disobedient married man, he's disobedient, and the Holy Ghost says, if you want to change him, don't change him like a feminist. Don't change him by being loud and stubborn. Change him by being very feminine and respecting his masculinity. You'll change a man that way. If it's true of a disobedient married man, listen to me, ladies. Is it not also true of a disobedient unmarried man? I'm telling you whether a man's obedient or disobedient, he is affected by a godly lady. I've got quotes down through the centuries. I've got quotes from 1920s when barfellas were yelling at all these women and everything, and then here comes a godly woman dressed nice. A preacher in the 1920s says, everybody just got quiet and says, man, what can we do for you? I've had preachers write me. If you're out there, thank you for the letter. It's been many, many years. But, you know, walk downtown and people are whistling and treating women like all kinds of objects. And then all of a sudden a godly woman comes by and they're like, oh, respectful and honoring her. And so I'm telling you, this works even with disobedient men. See, especially when it's in your character as well as your dress. I'm not telling you to go communicate that you're not going to be affectionate. You might be dressed right, but you communicate that you're going to be mean and stubborn and loud and he's going to have a miserable life. I don't mean communicate that. I don't mean be overly flirty. But I'm telling you, if you show you're affectionate to your father and you're sweet and you're kind, you'll show that you're going to be an affectionate godly wife. I assume a godly, wise woman doesn't want a disobedient man. But the point here is this, if a disobedient man has a great chance of being won and influenced by a woman's modesty and chastity and reverence, how much more an obedient unmarried man? If you want an obedient, godly man to marry, then you've got to quit giving off signals that say, warning, warning, back off away from this one. See, men out there are looking for markers. They're looking for markers that say, this is a godly woman. You can take a chance. They're afraid. They're afraid. They're like that deer out there, the male deer. He won't come out of the woods. He says, no, it's probably a trick. And you can try to get the male turkey, you can try to get the male deer, and you can act like you're a woman, have all these little calls that you make to try to get him to come running out, but he's gonna stay. He's afraid, uh-uh. He's not coming out. It might be a trick. It might be a trick. So when he's looking at you, he's thinking, hmm, she might be tricking me. This might all be a trick. I'm gonna look for signs. I'm gonna look on her social media. I'm gonna watch her closely when she don't think I'm watching. I'm gonna see if she's tricking me. That's how the dude's thinking. He's looking for some kind of marker that says, this woman's godly. She's not in competition with masculinity. She's not looking to rob me of manhood and authority and leadership. She's looking for a manly man. She's not insecure in her femininity. She walks in it without any fear. She's not afraid to look like a woman and act like a woman. She doesn't have any issues that show me she's going to end up stubborn and destroying my marriage and everything we've built. What I'm telling you tonight, there are literally thousands of voices. There are videos, there are YouTubes, there are books from the 1920s all the way up to saturating modern culture right now. And all of these that I'm speaking about point to one major thing you have to do, not just say you're against feminism, but that helps. That helps. I mean, you come out being an opponent of feminism, a man says, She's publicly defying feminism? And she's dressing like she defies it? She's acting like she defies it? Hmm. You don't have to trust the authors of old. You don't have to trust all these matchmaking advisors today to say, you better quit your feminism. You better quit competing with men. You better show men that you want to complement them and not compete with their masculinity. These are unsafe people that are wise enough to tell you that. We have the more sure word of prophecy that says if a woman wants to win her disobedient husband, she needs to do it with submissive femininity. This is by the inspired Creator who made man and made woman. He knows how you function. He knows how a man functions. And if it's true for a disobedient husband in marriage, it's true for an obedient man before marriage. Show you're an anti-feminist. Show that you don't think masculinity is toxic and man are the enemy. Start dressing modest. Start smiling. Start putting some feminine ornaments in your glory, your long hair. Start hugging your father. Start showing respect for his role. Start letting everybody around you know where you stand about all this. One word of warning. Men are not as dumb as you think. At least not in everything. Beware of trying to fake it, because they're watching. Just because a potential man doesn't say anything, and he still smiles and says, okay, his quick eye might have already picked up signals. I've heard of a woman going to a restaurant, rolling her eyes and getting irritated just really quick for a second, and the fella said, oh, nope, not that one. We're not even in an argument. You're already showing signs of being contentious and pouty and hard to be around. You're stubborn toward your father and authority in general. Or if you show that you are modest, but it looks like it's only because of your father's influence, a godly Christian fella's gonna say, you know what, the second she gets away from her father, man, she's gonna cut loose. She's already trying to cut loose. See, men don't want that mask to come off and find out that you had a mask on the whole time. They don't want to get married to you and you say, sucker, if you think I'm going to be a sweet wife from the 1950s, you're out of your mind. I got you now. You're stuck with me or we'll go down to court. You want to catch a man in this climate? Don't fake it. Really be a godly woman. Remember the two C's. You're either competing with masculinity or you're complementing it. And as a woman, you were designed to help and complement masculinity. Say, I'm not afraid of a strong man. I want my man to be strong. I'm not afraid of masculinity. I'm not at war with men or their masculinity. I'm a woman. Say that. Act like it. We've already showed that a man doesn't want to cheerleader. No, let me rephrase that. We've already showed that a man doesn't want to be the cheerleader. A lot of women are saying, I just want you to jump on board and to be my puppy dog. And I'm going to seek my career and my life and my goals. And I want you to be my little puppy at home that I can come home and pet and feed and talk to. And you'll be on my program. Men are like, no, not interested. Go seek your career, go have fun, go cut your hair, dye it blue, put your tattoos on, do whatever you're going to do. No, I'll get a godly woman. And men are saying, if I have to go to the ends of the earth, I'll find a godly woman. But I'm not going to take a chance. That's what they're saying. Last quote for you today. Thank you for your patience. Redefining the formula that predicts celebrity marriages' doom. And New York Times says, the sex symbol factor defined formally as the number of Google hits showing the wife in clothing designed to elicit libidinous intent. They're saying, why do these celebrity marriages fail? They said, we have a computer formulation that can analyze and predict which marriages will last and which will fail. They've been pretty right with it. They say when the star is immodest, to the degree that she's immodest in public is the degree that the marriage will fail the quickest. Why is the wife's lewd image dangerous? Author and psychologist David M. Buss notes, research has documented that women who wear skimpy or sexually provocative clothing tend to be higher on the trait of narcissism. If researchers of the New York Times, quoted in the New York Times, are saying, She's a narcissist if she dresses lewdly. She's selfish. How much more is it communicating that to other men? Dear Father, we thank you for your goodness. We pray, Lord, that you'll help all of us be what you want us to be in this day and age. I pray this series will help some folks, Father, in any areas they need to be helped. We thank you for your divine blueprint, your design that you've given us. And thank you, Father, We pray that many will be destined for a godly marriage, a sweet marriage, a complimentary marriage, Father, where masculinity and femininity comfort one another, the man cherishes the wife and loves her, and the wife reverences her husband. And we pray, God, love you, in Jesus' name, Amen. We will at this time call an informal assembly.