Just for Women. Listen to Mrs. Waite speak from her heart to your need. Pause a moment and care. Dressed for Women is an unusual broadcast for women in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation. Yvonne Waite deals biblically with the many issues facing women today. The Bible tells the older women to speak the things which become sound doctrine and teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Listen now to Mrs. Wake speaking just for women. For a moment, Travis Gallegos thought he was dead. The 18-year-old Santana High School senior was laughing with friends between classes Monday morning when he heard the pop of a gunfire coming from the boys' room behind him. A moment later, as blood gushed from his mouth, he realized he had been shot. I thought the bullet had gone into my head, Gallegos recalls. I thought I was going to die. But the .22 caliber bullet had only pierced his lower lip. After a brief hospital stay, Gallegos joined friends and fellow survivors. He joined others who were grieving for the two students who died, one in the boys' room and one in a nearby courtyard. And they are trying to grasp what motivated the attack. They know the answer may never come. Many students and parents said that they still cannot imagine the accused shooter, Charles Andy Williams, harming anyone. Despite media reports portraying him as a troubled outcast, bullied to the breaking point, classmates say he was like any other freshman. Every new kid gets messed with a little bit," said Mike Thompson, 14, a friend of Williams and a freshman himself. But he didn't get it worse than anyone. He always seemed to laugh it off. That's an article from USA Today by Scott Bowles and Valerie Alvord. I read this in the airplane coming home from New Orleans on Wednesday, March 7, 2001. No, I guess it wasn't coming home from New Orleans, it was after we were already home. I was very disturbed, as the rest of the nation was. It reminded me of Columbine. I remember Columbine, and how much it paralleled the Santana shootings. The dead, always when someone dies, it parallels another death. Friends of Charles Andy Williams wrote Karen Peterson and USA Today on March 7, 2001. Friends of Charles Andy Williams, the 15-year-old arrested in the shooting at Santana High School in Santee, California, thought he was just kidding when he bragged to friends about bringing a gun to school. And they didn't report him. Tragically, he is accused of killing two and injuring 13. And how was one to know Williams wasn't bluffing as his schoolmates suspected? Everyone has said, I'm going to kill you, says USA Today teen panelist Bradley Welsh, 17 of Mount Pleasant, South Carolina. We all get angry. It would be a little irrational to turn everybody in who said something like that, especially when you know he would get some huge punishment. But other teen panelists and many experts say that there is genuine change in the wind. Increasing numbers of youngsters are willing to report even idle boasts about school violence. Such threats increasingly are seen as the stuff of life or death. I always ask the Lord what I should talk about in my programs, and I have been thinking all month. You see, I make eight programs at one time, put on one tape, and send to the studios. I'm on four stations, and I praise the Lord for this wonderful outreach of the ministry that God has given me. I have heartbeats that I want to share with you, and so I appreciate it, women, that you listen to me. But when I heard about these shootings again, I thought, I have to talk about this. I have to talk about this. The day before the shootings, when I was praying and pondering what I should do on this broadcast, I was going through some old papers. As you know, I've told you many times, I have piles of papers all over. I just have more papers and more mess than I have time and energy. I came across my Bible for Today update of May 1999. And I thought, I wish I could read this to the women, but it's a little out of date. That was the day before this tennis school was shot and killed, too, and injured so many. Let me see, were there 13 injured? 15, I've forgotten right now. What I wrote in May of 99 was called Killers at Columbine High and I'm going to read it to you. I realize that there are so many shootings that one killing seems to erase in our minds and another one comes up. But what I have written I want to share. It's all over the news. Children crying, parents weeping, and news being reported. Teenage boys with blood running down. His body was rescued from a high window. Girls cried, dazed. Policemen, frantic. SWAT teams wearing battle gear commanded the schoolyard. A gun was pointed to a girl's head. Fear breathed. Panic cried. Violence reigned. The assassin did not pull the trigger for her. She escaped, but others didn't. Fifteen died. The day was full of death, but the grass did not change. The mountains did not move, the sky was still blue, yet Littleton, Colorado would never be the same. Two teenage boys who rubbed shoulders with the subculture decided for some morbid reason, known only to them, to kill. Dressed in black trench coats, they gleefully murdered their peers. At random they shot, they killed, they laughed, all the while exploding bombs and throwing grenades. News media mentioned their group, a small band often called the Black Trenchcoat Mafia. They talked of death. They spoke of killing. They played a violent, death-filled video game called Doom. They watched hateful movies with cutthroats dressed in black. They enjoyed Marilyn Manson music. And they listened to Nazi-type hard metal rock, digesting every word. After the carnage of their schoolmates, the crazed killers turned inward. destroying themselves, committing suicide with the thud of their bodies on the library floor. Their blood flowed down, mixing with the blood of those they had massacred moments before. That day, death dropped down on Columbine High. Once again, the hearts of parents were broken, not only in Denver, but all over the country, from the president in the Oval Office to the bag lady on the street pushing her shopping cart. We, who had never heard of the Boys in Black, with butchery in their hearts feared for our children, our grandchildren, our country, our sanity. Quote, conquest is not only a right but also a duty, end of quote. That was a saying of another murderer, a hero of Eric Harris and Dylan Cleanborn, bold, the high school assassins, whose names now blaze our headlines. The other killer and executioner of millions was, you know, Adolf Hitler. His dates are 1889-1945. Some say the infamous April Day in Colorado was a celebration of Hitler's birthday. Well, it may have been, in a macabre sort of way. The trench coat hatchet boys bent on homicides were dressed in black. Hitler's elite guards dressed in black. If the Fuhrer, the author of Mein Kampf and the founder of the National Socialist German Workers' Party, NSDAP, had lived, he would have been 110 years old on April 20, 1999. Why was that maniac, the instigator of World War II, a runner-up to Satan himself, an idol? Why was he an idol of the Denver 2? Why was there not some other man more worthy of imitation, such as missionary David Brainard, born on the same day in the year 1718? Now we have the kind of grief never known before in Jefferson County, a grief full of whys and if onlys and fresh graves. There are never enough words to comfort a person who has suffered the death of a child. What must it be for a town to lose so many children? I'm sorry. Sorry for anyone who has experienced such loss, especially for those from Columbine High, and now this other high school, Sanity, and the other high schools between the two killings. I remember my mother at the death of my 20-year-old sister. I can see her now in my mind, drowning in the stark unbelief that it was happening to her. The blind hymn writer Fanny Crosby never got over the death of her baby. Yes, death is very real. It walks behind us, in front of us, and next to us, and when it is our time, it holds out our hand, and it holds onto it tightly. Oh, for you and for me to be ready for eternity. Life is not a tomorrow. or hope for a better day. Life is today. It is the business at hand and the duties of the hour as we are and where we are and for those who need us now. That was copied by my mother and I found it in some of her belongings. Shelton Smith has written, instead of how long will I live, the more important question may be how well will I live. Some live long lives and seem to waste every minute. Others live only a brief span and make a mighty impact while here. What kind of life are you living? If you are to be saved from sin, you must be saved as a sinner. Or not at all, for Christ has not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance. You must be saved through the merits of another and washed from sin in the precious blood of Jesus Christ. Your own works must not have a finger in it. It must be by grace and grace alone. Do you know Jesus Christ as your Savior? If some tragedy should strike you today like it struck these high school people and the parents of those children, would you be ready to meet the Savior? Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved. You have been listening to Just for Women with Yvonne Waite, sponsored by the Bible for Today Baptist Church in Collingswood, New Jersey. We invite you to visit our church Sundays, 10 a.m. and 1.30 p.m. and Thursdays at 8 p.m. If you need more information about our church, our broadcast, or our Savior, please call us toll-free 1-800-JOHN-10-9. The organist and pianist is Mr. Dick Carroll. Your announcer has been Dr. D. A. Waite, pastor of the Bible for Today Baptist Church. We invite all you ladies to join us for our next broadcast, heard twice weekly over this same station, and hear Yvonne Waite and Just for Women. Just for Women. Listen to Mrs. Waite speak from her heart to your need. Pause a moment and care. Just for Women is an unusual broadcast for women in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation. Yvonne Waite deals biblically with the many issues facing women today. The Bible tells the older women to speak the things which become sound doctrine. and teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Listen now to Mrs. Waite speaking just for women. Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill, and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment. Thou knowest the commandments. Do not commit adultery. Do not kill. Do not steal. Do not bear false witness. Honor thy father and thy mother. I'm reading Scott Bowles and Valerie Alvord's article in the USA Today. It's Wednesday, March 7, 2001. For a moment, Travis Gellier thought he was dead. The 18-year-old Santana High School senior was laughing with friends between classes Monday morning when he heard the pop of a gunfire coming from the boys' room from behind him. A moment later, as blood gushed from his mouth, he realized he had been shot. I'm reviewing with you the dreadful news that we hear all the time lately about children killing children, about guns being used for destructive things and not good things. I'm reading about this and talking about this with great compassion in my heart. I read to you about the killers at Columbine High on my last broadcast. By the way, I'm on twice a week. And if you don't know the other time, call your station and ask them when Just for Women is on. In the recent past, when in North Dakota, I walked into a motel memory room with pictures on the walls of young people who had died. There was a large quilt on the bed with pictures of the quilter's son on every square, snapshots of different years of his life. I thought it was an AIDS quilt. No. The young 15-year-old son of the person who made the quilt had committed suicide. It was shocking. He took his own life because of Marilyn Manson's music. I looked at his face, so young, it broke my heart. Most of the others in the snapshots had died for the same reason. This was not a room set up by a preacher for soul winning or for soap box against rock and roll music. It was a memory room for a dead son, part of the goth G-O-T-H society. A boy who succumbed to the lyrics of a man who dresses like a woman and calls himself Marilyn Manson. Let me pontificate for a few lines. I thought about these school shootings. It's an epidemic. I've seen with you the frightened, the wounded, and the bleeding stumbling out of schoolhouses across the land. Everyone has their theories. Some say it is the easy access to guns. Some say boys are full of rage and hurt feelings. Instead of crying, they shoot bullets. Some say boys don't have anything to do, that they need to learn how to express their anger and bitterness in acceptable ways. All of this may be true, but I reflect on the first rage recorded in history. The Bible tells us that Cain was very wroth and his countenance fell. Genesis 4, 6. The defined King James Bible defines the word wrath as angry, wrathful, incensed, and the word continence means facial expression. So the Bible tells us that Cain was wrath in his facial expression. He was incensed and it could be read all over his face. He didn't want to live according to God's rules. Cain slew his brother over hurt feelings. Perhaps he'd been bullied by his brother, I don't know. Cain became a marked man. Perhaps he even wore a black trench coat. What needs to happen to our land to stop such killings? The Bible says, the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. Who can know it? Jeremiah 17 9. The United States of America needs Jesus Christ desperately. The young people of our land must have a new heart. They must turn from their sin and accept Jesus who died for that sin. They must have a new reason to live, a new person to serve. Life is mixed up and confusing enough with Jesus. What must it be like without him? The Lord Jesus said, marvel not, that I say it unto thee, ye must be born again. John 3, 7. But let some official of the land say that and see how far he gets. I want to read you something that just came in the email today. And as I write this, I'm at the 21st of March as I'm making this broadcast. I realize you'll get it at another time. This is not new news. I think I have read it before. But it may be new to you and it's very pertinent to what we're talking about. It says, guess our national leaders didn't expect this on Thursday. And I'm not sure what Thursday this was. Darryl Scott, the father of Rachel Scott, a victim of the Columbine High School shooting in Littleton, Colorado, was invited to address the House Judiciary Committee subcommittee. What he said to our national leaders surely during this special session of Congress was painfully truthful. They were not prepared for what he had to say. Nor was it received well. It needs to be heard by every parent, every teacher, every politician, and every socialist and sociologist. Every psychologist and every so-called expert, these courageous words spoken by Daryl Scott are powerful, penetrating and deeply personal. There is no doubt that God sent this man as a voice crying in the wilderness. Let me read to you what he said. Since the dawn of creation there has been both good and evil in the hearts of men and women. We all contain the seeds of kindness or the seeds of violence. The death of my wonderful daughter, Rachel's Joy Scott, and the deaths of that heroic teacher, and the other 11 children who died must not be in vain. Their blood cries out for answers. The first recorded act of violence was from Cain when he slew his brother, Abel, out in the field. The villain was not the club he used. Neither was it the NCA, the National Club Association. The true killer was Cain. And the reason for the murder could only be found in Kane's heart. In the days that followed the Columbine tragedy, I was amazed at how quickly fingers began to be pointed at groups such as the NRA. I'm not a member of the NRA. I'm not a hunter. I do not even own a gun, says his father. I am not here to represent or defend the NRA, because I don't believe that they are responsible for my daughter's death. Therefore, I do not believe that they need to be defended. If I believed they had anything to do with Rachel's murder, I would be their strongest opponent. I am here today to declare that Columbine was not such a tragedy. It was a spiritual event that should be forcing us to look at where the real blame lies. Much of the blame lies here in this room. Much of the blame lies behind the pointing fingers of the accusers themselves. I wrote a poem just four nights ago that expresses my feelings best. This was written way before I knew I would be speaking here today. Your laws ignore our deepest needs. Your words are empty air. You've stripped away our heritage. You've outlawed simple prayer. Now gunshots fill our classrooms. Our precious children die. You seek for answers everywhere and ask the question, why? You regulate restrictive laws through legislative creed, and yet you fail to understand that God is what we need. Men and women are three-part beings. We all consist of body, soul, and spirit. When we refuse to acknowledge a third part of our makeup, we create a void that allows evil, prejudice, and hatred to rush in and wreak havoc. Spiritual presence were present within our educational systems for most of our nation's history. Many of our major colleges began as theological seminaries. This is a historical fact. What has happened to us as a nation? We have refused to honor God, and in so doing, we open the doors to hatred and violence. And when something as terrible as Columbine tragedy occurs, politicians immediately look for a scapegoat such as the NRA. They immediately seek to pass more restrictive laws that contribute to erode away our personal and private liberties. We do not need more restrictive laws. Eric and Dylan would not have been stopped by metal detectors. No amount of gun laws can stop someone who spends months planning this type of massacre. The real villain lies within our own hearts. Political posturing and restrictive legislation are not the answers. The young people of our nation hold the key. There is a spiritual awakening take place that will not be squelched. We do not need more religion. We do not need more gaudy television evangelists spewing out verbal religious garbage. We do not need more million dollar church buildings built while people with basic needs are being ignored. We do not need a change of heart and a humble acknowledgement that this nation was founded on the principle of simple trust in God. As my son Craig lay under the table of the school library and saw his two friends murdered before his very eyes, he did not hesitate to pray in school. I defy any law or politician to deny him that right. I challenge every young person in America and around the world to realize that an April 20, 1999 at Columbine High School prayer was brought back to our schools. Do not let the many prayers offered by those students be in vain. Dare to move into the new millennium with the sacred disregard for legislation that violates your God-given right to communicate with Him. To those of you who would point your finger at the NRA, I give to you a sincere challenge. Dare to examine your own heart before casting the first stone. My daughter's death will not be in vain. Young people of this country will not allow that to happen." End of quote. And I said to my husband the day when Santa Tee High School had the shooting there in California. Every child in that school broke the law when he prayed, and yet it is our God-given right Do you know the God to whom we can pray? Jesus made it possible that you could pray to God and have your prayers heard. He said, I am the way, Jesus said, the truth and the life. No man cometh unto the Father but by me. I'm under God's care. Are you? You have been listening to Just for Women with Yvonne Waite, sponsored by the Bible for Today Baptist Church in Collingswood, New Jersey. We invite you to visit our church Sundays, 10 a.m. and 1.30 p.m. and Thursdays at 8 p.m. If you need more information about our church, our broadcast, or our Savior, please call us toll-free 1-800-JOHN-109. The organist and pianist is Mr. Dick Carroll. Your announcer has been Dr. D. A. Waite, pastor of the Bible for Today Baptist Church. We invite all you ladies to join us for our next broadcast, heard twice weekly over this same station, and hear Yvonne Waite and Just for Women. Just for Women. Listen to Mrs. Waite speak from her heart to your need. Pause a moment and care. Just for Women is an unusual broadcast for women in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation. Yvonne Waite deals biblically with the many issues facing women today. The Bible tells the older women to speak the things which become sound doctrine and teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Listen now to Mrs. Waite speaking just for women. I've been talking about school shootings. The one in Santee, California Santana High School has rekindled our horror at what children will do to other children. I suppose they're no different than what big people do to big people and to children. Right here in Philadelphia recently some criminal was after another man. I think the man both of them were convicts escaped or something and one was going to testify against the other and so the man with the gun tried to shoot the other man who was in a barbershop And the man who finally was killed by the man with the gun hid behind a child in a barber chair. And the little five year old boy was shot as well as the man. It is terrible what is happening. Life is just one big mess, isn't it? I received a letter recently from my friend Ceil Adams and she said our country is in such a sinful state. It's hard to see it turn back to God. How will it happen? The sad part of the matter is that young people have not been taught the word of God. and do not believe, they sin. How can people turn back to God if they don't know the Word of God? Faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God. Romans 10, 17. We need preachers who teach and preach the whole counsel of God. I don't need to tell you this, Mrs. Waite, because you know this. Yes, we need preachers who are not afraid to teach the whole counsel of God. who will get down from their amusement chair to speak the word in truth. Someone said in an article in World Magazine, another school shooting hit another seemingly all-American city last week, causing some to wonder, how long will we leave children to create their own morality without reference to God? How long will we do this? This is my thought to you. And way back there when we had the Columbine shootings, I wrote this article that I've been reading to you on two broadcasts already. And I may be talking about this for another broadcast. And I contend that mothers should stay home and fathers should lead. Mothers should be staying home devoting their lives to their husbands and families instead of some offices or stores or bus driving jobs. They should stop working outside of the home. Children should be coming home to houses with mothers greeting them at the door with love. And you read it here, not some TV set or email pal. or babysitter or even a grandmother. The mother belongs there. Families must learn to live with less material possessions and less affluent homes. Sons should be reporting to fathers with fear and daughters should obey father's commands with backing from mothers. Parents should know where their children are at all times. The other day a friend of ours asked my husband, wouldn't you know if your sons were making a pipe bomb in your garage? Sometimes gangs of kids hang out on the church steps across from the street from us here in Collingswood. My husband and I ask ourselves, where are their parents? Fathers should enforce their sons' respect towards their mothers. Boys and girls should have something to do, and there's nothing like old-fashioned work around the house. Respect for authority must begin in the home, in the church, and then in the school. Then it will spill out into the community. Hanging out at the mall isn't productive, nor should hours be spent playing computer games or conversing in a computer chat room. It's the parent's responsibility to monitor their own children, not the school's or the police department or even a babysitter. The other day, and I'm talking about this period that I'm living in right now, we had a filthy call. About seven calls come to us one Sunday evening. filthy calls and in it was a death threat. And my husband called the police and the police tracked down this boy. This boy was very stupid because we had an answering machine and we had caller ID. And the very next day we heard about this shooting in California, in Santis, California. Hanging out at the mall isn't productive, nor should hours be spent playing computer games. It's the parents' responsibility to monitor their own children, not the schools or the police department or even a babysitter. If young people don't have cows to milk, or garages to build, or dresses to sew, or dishes to wash, or little sisters and brothers to care for, it's up to the parents to plan productive jobs for the children. An idle mind is the devil's workshop. God knew what he was talking about when he commanded Eve to be fruitful and multiply. That was God's solution to keeping mothers at home. Often men used to joke about keeping their wives barefoot and pregnant. Perhaps it isn't such a bad idea. When we see the extreme opposite played out in our communities, mothers perhaps should be barefoot and pregnant. But giving children something to do has one fly in the ointment. have to be with their children. Alas, that cramps some parents' style. It certainly would solve the daycare problems we hear so much about if mother was staying home with the children. Now, I want to read to you an article that I read in the Washington Times a while back. It's October 31st, 2000, and I haven't had a chance to read it to you. It's a little long, so I hope you bear with me. Nearly 7 million school-aged children per year are regularly left home alone The Census Bureau said in a report released today, most of these latchkey kids in 1995 survey were old enough to be in junior high in this 1995 survey. But 2% of the 140,000 children were just five years old, the report said. Can you imagine that? The survey further found that the average family was paying about $25 per week more for childcare than it did a decade earlier, that grandparents were top caregivers for preschoolers, and that nearly 40% of school children participated in after-school programs. In 1995, the most recent year for which data has been analyzed, there were 38.2 million children ages 5 to 14 in the United States. Census Bureau analysis Christine Smith said in her report, Who's Minding the Kid's Child Care Arrangements Fall 1995. That's her book, Who's Minding the Kid's Child Care Arrangements Fall 1995. Of this group, 6.9 million children or 18% spend at least a few hours a week caring for themselves while their parents worked or went to school. 65% of these latchkey children were older, in fact. Almost half of 14-year-olds spent time alone. But the survey also found that 2% of 5-year-olds, 3% of 6-year-olds, and 4% of 7-year-olds were unsupervised at times. Numerically, this referred to 100,000 5-year-olds, 114,000 6-year-olds, and 156,000 seven-year-olds, Ms. Smith said. The average time a child spent alone was six hours a week, and half of the children spent less than five hours a week alone, she said. However, 13% spent more than 10 hours a week by themselves. These findings troubled Sanford Newman, president of Fight Crime Investigates, a group of 1,000 law enforcement officials and allies who promote after-school programs. Quote, in the hour after school lets out violence, juvenile crime suddenly triples and prime time for juvenile crime begins. End of quote, Mr. Newman said. After-school hours are also peak times for youth to become victims of crime. Become pregnant, smoke, drink, or use drugs, he said. After-school programs, he added, can cut crime immediately, help kids do better in school, and teach them the values and skills to become a responsible adult. I say the mother should be home. When the child comes home from school, the mother should be there or should be there promptly afterwards. There should be none of this home alone stuff. The census report said that 15 million, or 39% of children between ages 5 and 14, did at least one enrichment activity in 1995. Sports was a top choice, followed by lessons and club activities. The report also found that working families often had multiple child care arrangements. I think it's terrible, if you don't mind me getting off of this. Where mothers take their children to daycare, and then from daycare some babysitter picks them up. And then from the babysitter, some other person picks them up and takes them home. I think it's terrible that little children have to be diapered and taken out when they are still sleeping before breakfast or with hardly any breakfast so the mother can go to work. I think it's terrible. Unless the mother has to work, and I mean has to work, has no husband or husband who has inabilities to work, the mother belongs home with these little children. The report also found that multiple families often had multiple child care arrangements. That's what I just was talking about. For instance, children aged 5 to 14 had an average 3.4 child care arrangements a week. Can you imagine that, ladies and gentlemen? I'm not supposed to be talking to the gentleman. I'm just on a high horse about this. For preschoolers, child care was most often provided by a relative, typically a parent or grandparent. There was also strong use of professional daycare and family-based daycare, indicating that parents used many avenues to care for their children, while they juggled work, school, and other activities, the report said. Other highlights based on data from the 1995 Survey of Income and Program Participation says average child care costs rose from $59 dollars in 1985 to $85 in 1995 in 1995 dollars. This represented 35% of income for poor families and 7% of income for other families. And then this report also said of children who lived with a single father, 31% spent time home alone. Of children who lived with a single mother, 17% spent time alone. There's too much divorcing going on. This alone, parenting, isn't because of death so much as it's divorcing. We are selfish. The adults of this world are selfish. And I'm ashamed of us. I'm ashamed of us. Do you know Jesus Christ is your Savior? If you do, you should look to the Word of God. And you should look in that Word of God and find out how you should be a wife, find out how you should be a parent, you should help your husband, to be a parent, encourage him, compliment him, love him so that he will go out and work and support the family so that your child doesn't become one of these shooters in the public school. I'm under God's care. Are you? You have been listening to Just for Women with Yvonne Waite, sponsored by the Bible for Today Baptist Church in Collingswood, New Jersey. We invite you to visit our church Sundays 10 a.m. and 1 30 p.m. and Thursdays at 8 p.m. If you need more information about our church, our broadcast, or our Savior, Please call us toll-free, 1-800-JOHN-10-9. The organist and pianist is Mr. Dick Carroll. Your announcer has been Dr. D. A. Waite, pastor of the Bible for Today Baptist Church. We invite all you ladies to join us for our next broadcast, heard twice weekly over this same station, and hear Yvonne Waite and Just for Women. The End Just for Women. Listen to Mrs. Waite speak from her heart to your need. Pause a moment and care. Just for Women is an unusual broadcast for women in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation. Yvonne Waite deals biblically with the many issues facing women today. The Bible tells the older women to speak the things which become sound doctrine and teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Listen now to Mrs. Waite speaking just for women. Hello girls, very good to see you again. I feel like I'm seeing you. I'm standing here talking to you and meditating. I'm praying that God will use these programs to stir you in such a way that you will be a better mother, a better grandmother, a better daughter. I've been talking about these murders, the murders, remember in Columbine and all the other ones from Paducah, Littletown, Jonesburg and then in Santee, California. And I've been reading to you from something that I wrote back in 1999 after the Columbine fiasco and terrible tragedies. Since when do sons and daughters have a choice to go or not to go to church? When I was young, it was never a discussion. In fact, I wanted to go. I love the Lord. When my husband and I were young parents, it was not a choice for our children, and I never ever remembered an argument about going to church with them. Our children knew that's what we did on church day. And when the church doors were open, we were there. Oh, how it behooves the preacher to preach a worthwhile, Bible-centered, interesting sermon. I admire a mother who comes to our church. She drives 50 minutes or more to be with us, bringing her three children with her. One is a teenager and one is in grade school, and the other is two years old. She wants them grounded in the Word of God. When parents are more interested in their own lives than the children's lives, their children are left to their own devices and this is dangerous. It is my personal belief that we have a bunch of parents in this day and age that do not know how to discipline their children. We live in a permissive society, if that's not news. First of all, many parents don't have any morals themselves. They model their lives after unmarried, drugged, drunken television or movie stars, or politicians who live like barnyard animals. So how in the world can they set an example of morality and honesty before their children? Why some parents work jobs they wouldn't want their children to know about, or see, or they live a lifestyle away from their house, that they would not want their children to follow. Some couldn't bring their sons or daughters to bring a child to work day either. For instance, Arnold Schleisenheimer, however you pronounce his name, came up recently on two different chalk shows that I heard since the Columbine tragedy. Why? Because of his violent films. I wish I could remember how to pronounce his name, but you know who I mean. The talk show hosts quickly defended him because they liked him personally, but the truth is I don't think that he wanted his own young children to view some of his head-bashing movies. I haven't seen them myself but understand the special effects are graphic. In those films he portrays events and situations that he disdains in his own children to emulate But he does them anyhow. Why? For the salary he receives and the popularity he gets, I'm sure. Today's generation of parents were raised by Dr. Spock's permissive doctrines. I know this because about 50 years ago, as a young mother, my pediatrician handed me an early edition of Dr. Spock's book. When I started practicing some of the disciplinary tactics survived in that book, my husband said, Vonnie, you are not following Dr. Spock. We are following the Bible. I am a parent of a baby boomer. I was going to say a boomy baby, but a baby boomer. Our oldest son is 52 now. No, he's 51. I've been married 52 years. I've got to get that straight. Some of the baby boomers were permitted to do many things without much restraint from their parents. If you're one, you know what I mean. For the most part, they were not spanked or deprived too much. We parents, for the remnants of the Great Depression in our early memories, are doing without. Some of us only had one pair of shoes and ate hamburger every day, if we had that. We knew the rationing of war and the sacrifices it brought. So many of us, when we had children, tried to give them what we did not have as children. And that's our fault. Too many material things are not good for a child. Today's children not only have their own private rooms, they have their own television sets, their own computers, their own private phones, their own cars, and now since the catastrophe of Columbine, I've discovered they have their own cell phones. I can't believe it. Then the baby boomers became parents. The permissive discipline received from their parents toward them, a la Spock, gave no foundation for them to bring up youngsters. The time out often is a farce and the new parents can't control their offspring. A slot in the backside or a slap of the hand could bring the arrest of the parents today. That's a shame. Small children have everything from battery run play cars to designer clothes and they grow into disrespectful teenagers who think the world owes them everything and they can't even greet their elders properly. They don't even stand when an adult comes in the room. The parents don't seem to be able to pronounce the word no. Like Nancy Reagan taught us, just say no. Instead, it is a word the children use in controlling their own parents. The wrong people are in control. The children are running the home. It's something that has fallen into their hands. The children did not ask to run the show, no. They cry out for parental control and an old-fashioned no. Instead, there is no parent at home. So who is in charge? The child or the dog? Today we have parents and many grandparents who raise their children in such a way that the children have no respect whatsoever for authority, or for their elders, or for private property, or for God. The parents swear a blue streak. They use street language. They use the name of God like a punctuation mark in their conversations. It's blasphemous. They smoke packs of cigarettes a day. They drink beer like water. They lie. They steal. They have no house rules. Their kids can come and go at their own whim and will. Mothers and fathers are never home to eat with their children, to read with their children, or to kiss them goodnight. The list goes on and on. So how in the world do parents expect their children to be any better than the parents showed them how to be? Then, former President Clinton, the perjurer, gets up and tells us all his stuff about children, and school, and anger, and violence. When he himself lied, he smoked cigars and finds some paramour during his times of stress with whom to calm down. Maybe if Hillary Clinton stayed home more, she could be what her husband was looking for. Teachers should be permitted To exercise strong discipline in schools and school administration should not bend their ears to crying mothers and weak fathers who care more for their children's tears than their children's moral character and obedience to authority. The old-fashioned ruler, applied properly, would be a good start for those parents. My admiration is directed to so-called Christian schools as well as public schools. Principals should back teachers or scuttle them. Not scuttle them, pardon me. And I know this from personal experience. My husband taught in public schools for a long time and his principal did not back him in discipline. and I had three sons who taught in Christian quote unquote Christian schools and their principals did not back them in discipline because of the dower. Many a good teacher has been sacrificed on the altar of a sniveling mother and her tuition money. Why? Why? Because we need school uniforms? Maybe we do. That's not the answer to the why. I read the word wrong. Perhaps we need school uniforms. At least young people should be forced to dress neatly like ladies and gentlemen. Some joy in oversized clothing or black, black from head to toe with dog collars around their necks and dyed blonde hair. Perhaps respect for the house of the Lord on Sunday morning would be a good starting place for a dress code reformation. Whatever happened to Sunday go meeting clothes? Some go to church looking like they just came from the hay field or a ball game or scrubbing the kitchen floor. What's wrong with the girl and her mother wearing a dress? Some women don't even own one. This new craze of church casual wear, even by the ministers, has gone too far. People act the way they are dressed. We need to ban murderous movies, destructive television shows, the implicit sex scenes where little is left to the imagination. American educators and town planners should wake up. Is the movie dollar profit more important than the child's mind? It appears so. Ban hard and soft rock from the airwaves. After the Littleton tragedy, MGM recalled Basketball Diaries, a favorite video of high school killers. It is thought that movie videos contributed to the Columbine slaughter. My question is, why did MGM make it to begin with? The answer we know, for money of course. A thought has come to me before and since the Colorado carnage and now since after this California event. I think Americans should rethink school size. Littleton Columbine High School housed almost 2,000 students. And that one in Santee, California was huge. You saw it on the television. Children from all neighborhoods and cultures flocked to the school, I'm sure. How could any principal, or teacher for that matter, really get to know the students as individuals in such a mass of teenagers? With such crowds, the average young person is lost as an identity. Certain few who excel in sports or other school activities become the stars while the ordinary child is ignored or picked on. Perhaps he has talents but is overpowered by the favorites. In a smaller school, a different child, a shy child, a homely child, a child with learning disabilities might have a better chance. There would be no need of a car for every teenager's son and daughter. I ask you, who says that a teenager should have a car anyhow? With small local schools so close to home, the young people could walk or ride a bike. The farm kids could be bused in if necessary, not the town children. I walked. Our fathers had money to buy us cars, but they didn't. Our children walked. It was good for them. It was for us. It can be for the new millennium young people too. Try it. World, try it. It will work. Try it. Oh, my heart aches for all of this. And I'm just going to pause a minute. I lost my place. I'm sorry. I got to pontificating. Children can be very cruel to other children. That's what we learned about in Santee or whatever the name of that place was there in California, Santee. Children can be very cruel. I've experienced it myself when I had to wear funny shoes and crutches to school or when I walked down the street with my retarded sister. With parents wrapped up in their work away from home, we have dear children who need attention. In huge schools these young people are pushed here and there with the flow of the crowd. They really have little chance to learn who they really are. Sometimes they are warped for life. The old-fashioned one-room schoolhouse has its advantage. The older children care for the younger children. The smaller community school produced much excellence, and so no murders. They didn't produce that, that I can remember. No wonder the homeschool movement is growing. It's small, it's parent-run, and it's safe. What's wrong with bringing the Bible back and prayer back to school? I noticed the children in Columbine prayed. They were in their closet and they prayed, they prayed. Why not try God's word? It's certainly worked before. I'm under God's care. Are you? You have been listening to Just for Women with Yvonne Waite, sponsored by the Bible for Today Baptist Church in Collingswood, New Jersey. 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